From the moment they come into the world, little black girls works just a little bit harder than their peers to construct a healthy sense of self in a society that prizes values and attributes that don’t mirror those they possess. We as their caregivers must help them find the way by offering them as many affirming messages as possible. We can do this with our words and by our example; however, books can also prove to be important points of contact into the souls and spirits of black girls.
And then you woke up from that dream you were having.
Taurus Turn On: Grammar. Because grammar is the difference between knowing your shit and knowing you’re shit.
I wouldn’t agree if I didn’t know it’s truth.
This Sunday, in-between church services, I went to see him before he left for work.
Schedules still running around each other, so if its 10 min and only a kiss, we make it work.
He informs me he’s not home, to meet him at a nearby intersection.
I drive up and notice several businesses, any that he could be inside. Noticed a church letting out and folks lining up near an ice-cream truck stationed outside.
Realize the heat was kicking my a%$ and was growing impatient as I waited for him to meet me from wherever he was.
He jumps in the truck and sees I’m hot, annoyed, and eyeing the time.
Quickly, he apologizes and informs me he was inside the church, working in their kitchen.
I sat speechless.
He proceeds to inform me that he’s been volunteering there in their kitchen and was running behind because he was having a convo with the priest and didn’t want to interrupt him.
Never expected "church" and "I" to come from his mouth in the same sentence or statement.
From the day we met in 2010, he was adamant he’d NEVER step foot in a church again. Still, again, don’t know the details about his past experience, but he’s just as stubborn as I am. When he said NEVER, his heart strongly, STRONGLY meant it.
Now, here we are.
No, he’s not in the sanctuary, he’s not a deacon, hell, he ain’t even got a bible open, but…
The simple fact that he’s allowed himself to open enough to be a volunteer chef at a CHURCH speaks volumes.
My people, my spiritual sister and brothers, don’t fear differences.
Don’t limit possibilities.
I know what the word says, trust me I do, but be certain in your heart that’s what it means. There are a lot of things we’ve been taught and has been misinterpreted generation to generation. And understand, much of what all these various religions believe is the same story, different names. When you start digging, doing some real research beyond the bible, we all looking for the same higher being.
As I said in a previous post, he may never decide to join a church. I don’t see him catching the holy ghost or doing a victory lap….real talk!
I won’t take the credit, not an advocate of changing nobody but the kids I teach, but I’m certain that my relationship with HIM has/is helping him heal their relationship.
I’m just happy, he’s happy. And I know He’s pleased.
In a child’s eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.
if you missed the first one, we at it again - TIPSY LOVE at Beauty Bar, this Thursday. Me & @astrowifey on nail art, @djlanilove spinning. Come out for my pre-bday turn up